Gemini in the Summer

It’s strange how something so basic — taking time off to care for yourself — can feel like asking for something extravagant. A doctor’s appointment, a mental health day, time to breathe… none of these are luxuries. They’re necessities. But in today’s workplace, it can feel like you have to beg for permission just to be human.

There’s a certain tension that comes with it:
the hesitation before asking,
the fear of being judged,
the guilt for needing time at all.

You rehearse what to say, justify your reason, make sure it sounds serious enough. As if healing, grieving, or just maintaining your wellbeing needs to be proven to anyone.

When you’re already dealing with anxiety, illness, depression, or panic attacks — the pressure doubles. It’s not just the appointment. It’s the pre-appointment stress of hoping they’ll understand. And sometimes they don’t.

Some employers act like our bodies run on factory schedules. Like we’re machines — always “on,” never needing repairs. But we’re not machines. We’re people with lives, losses, doctor visits, families, emotions, panic attacks, chronic pain, and everything else that comes with being human.

And when the workplace forgets that, it hurts.

There comes a point where calling out becomes the only option. Not because you’re irresponsible, but because you’re responsible for yourself. Because you know your body better than anyone. Because when help is scheduled for today, today is when you go — not next week, not next month.

Sometimes self-care looks like showing up to work.
Sometimes self-care looks like not showing up at all.

No one should have to choose between a paycheck and their health. The truth is, a healthy employee is a better employee. When we’re supported — not guilted — we thrive. We work better when we’re treated like humans, not time clocks.

I’m learning to stand up for my needs, even if it feels uncomfortable. Because advocating for your health is not weakness. It’s growth. It’s maturity. It’s survival.

If you’re reading this and you’ve ever felt guilty for needing time off — you’re not alone. Many of us are trying to balance life and labor, grief and responsibility, healing and deadlines. It’s not easy. But we deserve space to care for ourselves without shame.

One day, I hope workplaces understand that compassion is not an inconvenience — it’s a requirement for a better world.

Until then, I’ll keep choosing me.
Even when it means calling out.
Even when it means standing my ground.
Because my health is not negotiable.